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As Christmas approaches you are likely to be attending more than the usual number of parties and receptions. You know before you arrive at these business related events that you are expected to be on your best professional behaviour. No letting down your guard. So you may need to prepare ahead of time.

You could think about who will be there, what you will wear, and what you might talk about. You may have had something to eat before you go so you don’t rush straight for the bar and the buffet table. You arrive on time so you don’t have to play catch up or interrupt people already locked in conversation.

After working the room a while, you may decide to eat. Of course, you stop at the bar first so, with drink in hand, you head for the hors d'oeuvres, picking up the chicken on a skewer, dipping it into the sauce and taking a bite.

Unfortunately the chicken doesn’t slide right off the skewer so you begin tugging at it with your teeth. About that time an important client walks up. There you are with a glass in one hand, chicken in the other and sauce running down your chin. Two questions come to mind: how did you get into this mess and how are you going to get out of it? An ounce of prevention was definitely worth a pound of cure.

Here's how you might avoid this humiliation altogether.

•  Do one thing at a time. Either have a drink or a bite to eat. It is difficult to juggle food and beverage and still have a hand free for shaking hands.
•  Avoid any foods that may get messy. If you do attempt the skewered meat and dipping sauce, have a napkin in hand to help you manage the runoff. Hold a napkin under any food eaten with your fingers.
•  It is easier to manage food that is passed, but before you take one of those giant stuffed mushrooms, consider what will happen if you pop the entire thing into your mouth or if you bite into that juicy tidbit. If there is risk involved, wait to see what else comes along.
•  When food is served with a toothpick, discard it properly. The toothpick never goes back on the serving tray. If a container is not provided, put the toothpick in your napkin, on your plate, if you have one, or on the tray that the server is using to collect empty glasses.

 And keep in mind that double dipping is forbidden. Once you have dipped the asparagus in sauce, you don't get another opportunity with the same item. You want more sauce; have another asparagus.

 If you end up with something in your mouth that you don't like or can't chew, transfer it from your mouth to your napkin when no one is looking. Then find a wastebasket or the tray for the used plates and glasses.

Proceeding with caution and remembering that these events are not about the food will keep you out of embarrassing situations.